I just wanted to post so no one thinks I fell off a ladder or something. So far, I have not fallen off anything, glued myself to anything, hammered any fingers, or even dropped a brush or roller full of paint onto the carpet or against something in another color of paint. I fully expect to drop a brush or roller before I am done. My hands are just not that good any more and sometimes I am just really tired. My knees are about to pack up and move out, taking my shoulders with them.
The only new Pearl of Wisdom that I have is do not put Vaseline on your hands to moisturize them right before operating a carpet steamer.
I have some very clean stains on my carpet. Suggestions for removal of pet stains will be gratefully received and put to the test.
Monday the third realtor will be here for me to sign papers with her. This is so hard for me to do. I have lived here 30 years. I raised my only child here. My ex-husband and I had this house built for us. My daughter literally cut her teeth on the windowsills, and there are still some teeth marks to prove it. Only two of them aren't marble, and those are the two she went after. I know I will cry on Monday. I just hope it's after the realtor leaves.
This is the place my daughter thinks of when she thinks "home." She lived here all her growing years, until she moved out on her own. She has a room here, the one she grew up in. In my new place, there will be only 2 bedrooms, not 4. She will not have a room of her own there. She already looked a little sad when she had been up to see what I have done with her room. She saw it painted, but not with the new bed in it. I feel a little like I am displacing my daughter, but she is 26, and truly an adult woman on her own.
While my mother lived until I was 45 years old, I never felt I had a 'mommy' to take care of me and to go home to for safety or comfort. I want my daughter to always know she has a safe place with me, even if it's in the basement or on the sofa. I have aways tried to take care of her. I don't plan to stop now.
13 comments:
This entry made me sad.
I understand why you are moving but it must be so hard to leave all those memories.
Hopefully a family with children will move in. Then you can walk away knowing you just gave a new family a place to create their own memories with their kids.
Miss ya and take care of yourself,
Stacy
YOU are a great mommy! I am with you though, I would hate to move from this house, it's where we brought all these goofy kids together to make a family. I know my father has rented out my family home. I know some day it will be sold or knocked down to build townhouses. Makes me sad too, but my mom passed away and it just wasn't the same. Change is hard and sad, but as long as you have a special spot for your daughter in your new place she'll still be home! You'll just start new memories! Sounds like after you move you'll need a long vacation! ~rose
do you have any pics of the old house, I would like to see the new colors.
you are a great Mom just moving she knows you will always be there for her:) as far as stains go Go to walmart and get pet out( it has a cat and dog on the front) its in a spray bottle you also can get a bottle to refill it this stuff is great.
Deb
With so many pearls of wisdom, I think you have a nice 16" strand now. I know the move will make you sad, but I really think that after you get moved you will feel like a NEW woman. So when are you coming to AZ? Anne
Try not to dwell on the house too much (I know, easier said than done) but it's your love for each other that has created what you have not the house itself. YOU will always be that place for saftey and comfort for your daughter. It doesn't matter where you live. Hugs, Martha
I agree with lifes2odd, a good healthy relationship between mother and daughter has little to do with a "structure." Children need to be constantly praised and reassured. They need a hug when they fall, a word of reassurance when uncertain. They need to hear "I love you" every day.
It doesn't matter where all those good memories are made. It's just CRUCIAL that they are MADE, they can then LIVE in a happy healthy heart . . . FOR LIFE!
Time to move forward without looking back! Go make some NEW good memories in that condo of yours!!! ;-)
I know the feeling about always having a place for your children to come home to. Home is where you are. My parents sold our "childhood home" and moved across town when I was in (ahem) college. It must have been 1976 when they did this. I always think of that old house left behind as "home" but I love the new house too, though I never really lived there...only for brief periors inbetweens. I knew the new condo will feel like home in no time.
I'm sure your daughter will feel welcome no matter whare you live.
Shadie
I feel sad now too! What a great mom you are.
Terra
I've found that the best method to remove carpet stains involves moving all the furniture off the carpet (preferably into a large van). Drive the van to a new house and live there. The carpet will take care of itself.
Bless your heart....It is hard to let go of things that you have grown accustomed to for that long of a time. Just think of it as a new adventure.
hugs
Kathi
I can just imagine how hard this is for you. Since I am faced with a likely move after (only) 13 years in this house...I know how it feels to leave so much behind. I can't offer any words of wisdom. I think it's something you just have to work through in your own good time.
As far as our children go....we have to believe that home is where the heart is. My children will always have a home wherever I am. I know that's true for you and your daughter too.
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