In response to rbushu's question of where am I, I am here, at home....with a House Guest. My grown daughter has moved back in for maybe a week. My whole life will be on hold while the dramas unfold. I will do all I can to help while keeping my nose well within my own business.
But I am used to having my own home now, and this will be a big adjustment. We don't keep the same hours, we don't even eat the same foods. I am exceptionally quiet and like as little noise as possible, she is more like a one woman marching band.
We will have fun anyway. We will cook, eat, drink, talk, talk some more, work out, drink, eat, cook, shop, go get me a new refrigerator finally, eat, drink, work out, ad nauseum. We will laugh a lot. We don't argue any more. We aren't adversaries in any way, shape or form any more. We are equals. It's wonderful. We had hoped to go to Las Vegas this weekend, but flight plans did not cooperate with her work schedule. We will go later in the summer when it "warms up."
So I may be quiet for a few more days. I am trying to catch up on my sleep.
In the meantime, let's hear from everyone. What kind of a relationship do you expect to have with your grown children once they get to the drinking and voting ages? If they are grown, what would you change? If you have none, I have a deal for you...or perhaps you have a niece, nephew, cousin, neighbor who needs an extra parental figure. These days we can't have too many good examples. Ty, this leaves you out! Or - what did your parents do right/wrong for you when you became adult?
Doncha just love homework? Y'all have great holiday weekends, ya hear? No rain, hail, sleet or freezing rain shall interfere. xoxoxo to all.
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Suz, I'm sending a package of hail back to you. Somehow, it showed up here this morning unexpectedly.
I'll have to work on my homework later. Glad everything's alright.
Damn. No wonder I saw the sun for 10 minutes today! Just don't add insult to injury by sending it COD.
hey ya.... Just dropping a line to let ya know I read when I can. I'm better at just looking at the pictures but read when I have to.. :-)
Suz, what would a package of COD hail look like after 2-3 days in priority mail?
As for the homework, I've put my youngest daughter on an accelerated program. She's drinking coffee at age 4. I'm sneaking her into the polls at 5. She'll be able to drive to the package liquor store by age 6, with any luck. She's tall for her age and can reach the pedals.
The rest of them are still mad at me for embarrassing them at school in front of their friends. Hard to shake those Conga memories, I suppose.
No children of my own, but I am wondering about my friends' sons who I am an "uncle" to... my hope is that they will grow up to be open-minded young men who can express their masculine sides confidently but are not afraid of be sensitive and nurturing. My friends are raising them that way, so hopefully it'll work out! --Albert
" In the meantime, let's hear from everyone. What kind of a relationship do you expect to have with your grown children once they get to the drinking and voting ages?" You ask us, Suz. Okay here goes:
It's hard to see them as adults, but I realize she's grown, and any advice I give her I add,"I'm not telling you what to do, because I am not perfect, but I've been there and just don't want to see you get hurt."
My daughter understands that anything I say is because I love her, and not trying to tell her how to run her life.
"Hot, burn" you tell them when they are little, but you can't tell them that when they are adults.
Debi
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